Read Daily Inspire for weekday encouragement and weekend inspiration. Tanya Moushi is a six-figure solopreneur with over a decade of experience. She is the author of Love is the Business Plan and the creator of the newsletter, Daily Inspire. Through her writing, Tanya provides emotional support and encouragement to entrepreneurs, inspiring them to create a business that aligns with their values. Join the journey to learn, grow, and overcome resistance.
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Hey friends,
Today's Christmas Eve newsletter is about joy.
Specifically, why choosing it (according to one of the world's leading psychologists) is the most effective way to live. It reminds me of a talk I watched a long time ago on decision-making where by the end the speaker said, "This strategy works...except for choosing who to love, where to live, and what to do for a living."
For those things, you follow joy.
Marshall Rosenberg is the author of a book called Nonviolent Communication, one of the most powerful books on communication that I hadn't even heard of until recently.
I grabbed the audio version and it’s one of the most powerful reads on self-talk I’ve experienced with one of the biggest takeaways being this:
But isn’t that selfish? Aren’t we shirking responsibilities? Is that not wrong?
These questions come from a place of self-judgment and when you’re in that mode, you are what psychologists call “divorced from your own needs” which makes it very difficult to do things genuinely.
I come from a family that hit as a form of discipline. And as Rosenberg mentions that's one way to get the outcome you want, but it isn't the way to get the motivation you want. My parents are wonderful people by the way, they just didn't know what they didn't know.
We want joy to be the motivation (if you've seen The Break-up with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston: "I want you to want to do the dishes!")
Rosenberg suggests that joy is a natural state that arises when our actions are in harmony with our values and needs. He emphasizes that true joy comes from autonomy and self-fulfillment, not from pleasing others or adhering to societal expectations.
He has simple but seemingly radical advice: Don't do anything that isn’t play.
Rosenberg says we can experience “Joyous play” by replacing lack-of-choice language (e.g. "I can't") with acknowledgement-of-choice language (e.g. "I won't"), and then staying grounded in clear awareness of the need behind everything we do (connection, peace, autonomy, etc).
When you have clear awareness of this need, you can decide to either stop doing what you don’t want to do, or reestablish your why and do it with joy.
Here's an exercise he suggests:
Example
This exercise also helps us uncover the many other reasons we do things (which he recommends avoiding):
"Should, ought, must” is language that denies choice and he considers it “the most socially dangerous and personally unfortunate" of all the ways we act when we’re cut off from our needs.
But could you really only do things you want to do?
Think about successful people you know. How often do they do things they don’t want to do? Rarely, is the answer to that question. And it’s not because they’re full of ego; it’s because they understand they are most effective when doing what they genuinely want.
It’s a hack.
Practice it.
Joyous play.
Last week I shared a few tactics around how I sell services and many of you responded with positive feedback (thank you for that, it goes a long way).
Here's a few more behind-the-scenes tactics (unchanged for nearly 10 years):
Tactics like this make the process part easier and helps create space for thinking about the most important aspect of sales: who you want to help, how you can help them, and how to be the best at it.
Want a hack for that last one?
You'll never guess it.
Joy.
Cheers and Merry Christmas!
Tanya Moushi ("moo-shee"),
Moushi & Co. | Daily Inspire
Designing Good Business
by Tanya Moushi "Moo-shee"
Read Daily Inspire for weekday encouragement and weekend inspiration. Tanya Moushi is a six-figure solopreneur with over a decade of experience. She is the author of Love is the Business Plan and the creator of the newsletter, Daily Inspire. Through her writing, Tanya provides emotional support and encouragement to entrepreneurs, inspiring them to create a business that aligns with their values. Join the journey to learn, grow, and overcome resistance.